Articles Tagged ‘support’

Monday, December 6th, 2010

Don’t Be a Taker

When I facilitate teambuilding retreats, one of the questions I ask individuals on the team is whether or not it is within their comfort zone to receive support. By and large, most high performance individuals rate themselves low. It’s either a big stretch for them or they simply don’t. They operate from a way of being that “if it is to be, it’s up to me.” That’s not a bad thing, let’s face it, in many of cases that serves us well.

However, there are two problems here:

1. In order for a team or an organization to grow, to be high performing, to become world class… the individuals on that team need to learn to not only be supported but to ask for support … then receive it. No one, not any one of us can do it all on our own. Fair statement?

2. Second, and a little more personal, if you are the one who is ALWAYS giving, I believe that makes you a taker. Why? Because you are “taking” from the people around you. You are robbing them the opportunity to feel the satisfaction, the joy and the fulfillment of giving to you. In addition, professionally, allowing and releasing of control can foster valuable development for colleagues and team members. It’s called mentorship.

Be a giver – give the people in your work and life the opportunity to give to you and support you. I believe that receiving AND allowing yourself TO BE SUPPORTED is equally important to giving. It’s important to get uncomfortable and stretch into unfamiliar territory in order to grow personally and professionally. Your team and the people in your life are counting on it.

So if you are a giver, support and be supported. Receive. Don’t be a taker.
Deseri Garcia
Vida Aventura

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